If It's Your Birthday As psyched as you are about being in a relationship on your birthday, don't put too much pressure on your newly minted significant other to make the day special.
Remember, it's their first time going through the birthday gauntlet with you, so this one is mostly about setting the tone.
This night is not about your burgeoning relationship.
If your date doesn't have plans, you can offer to take him or her out for a birthday drink, but be wary of this.
DO: Take him out to dinner, maybe for a drink after.
DON’T: Treat him to a 9-course dinner at a Michelin-starred restaurant, and present him with a bottle of Glenmorangie Pride 1981.
You’ve finally had the “we’re exclusive” convo (congrats! But if said convo takes place just a month or two before the holidays, the internal struggle to figure out what to gift your new partner ensues.
Obviously, you don’t want to go too big, yet you don’t want to not give anything at all. DO: Get a subscription to a streaming service they don’t have.
We've made you a list of exactly what's expected of you, based on length of time dating.
Sure, it's possible they're just not big birthday people, in which case it's perfectly fine to spend the day together without making a huge production out of the birthday.
But beware of people who expect you to make big plans for their birthdays too early on in the relationship -- this screams high maintenance, and besides, don't they have friends to do this? If You've Been Dating Three Months or Fewer, Not Exclusively Same rules apply as above in terms of party behavior: if you go to a celebration, be prepared to buy drinks and go home together.
DO: Get him a gift that’s reflective of something topical you’ve discussed. Get him a book of one of your favorite modern artists. Get him a new cooking gadget, a new cookbook you know he doesn’t have, or gift card to a specialty food store.
DON’T: Get him something completely cliché like a tie if he wears jeans and tees to work, a baseball book if he hates sports, a universal remote for his TV, any sort of grilling apparatus, a box of golf balls, a power drill, a huge bag of “masculine” grooming essentials, or a subscription to the beer of the month club if you’ve never seen him drink beer.
If you don't participate in a group celebration, some sort of acknowledgement about the birthday is still necessary.