I’m going to start with a very simple one, the idea of discretion.
Our Unicorn Hunters are good, thoughtful, compassionate people.
They have been together for over a year and are open-minded, tolerant, ethical, progressive people.
Their relationship has some very good points, they genuinely care for each other, are committed, and tend to be open to new experiences.
It is critical to have a conversation with prospective partners, before there is a relationship, where you discuss how “out” you are wiling to be.
Set expectations early, so that everyone knows what things will look like and can consider the ramifications.
The problem with this is even though there are consequences, and they are often big, this is not setting a boundary. Upon further reflection, you consider this option, “Hey, I’ll just make an excuse. Are you going to get U a hotel room for the duration of your family’s stay? Presumably U spends time in your home and will feel isolated for the duration of the visit. In all of these cases you are faced with the same situation, U is a “dirty secret”, and while NONE of you intended to set things up to make them feel that way, each of you WILL feel the pressure that is generated by that truth.
What do you mean, pitfalls, aren’t these good things to talk about? These are issues that need to be discussed when opening up a preexisting relationship, certainly, but perhaps not for the reasons or in the way that you might think.They don’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable, and neither do they want to have to answer questions or justify their decisions in the workplace, so they have decided to remain “in the closet” about this whole experiment.That seems respectful, both for them and for the person they are going to be dating.First, many but not all situations where people are given the title of “Unicorn Hunter” follow one very specific model.Here are the archetypal “Unicorn Hunters.” The Unicorn Hunters are a male/female couple, the female partner is bisexual while the male partner is heterosexual (mostly), and they are looking to have a woman start dating them together.You posted that you and your partner are ready to open up your relationship and find a special person to add to it. One thing that many of them said was that you are a “Unicorn Hunter”.