But on the internet, she’s still looking for love in all the wrong places — this time, with a mission.SAG-AFTRA will host a members-only panel discussion next week about sexual harassment and abuse in the entertainment industry.Whatever you do, he adds, don’t ever pay them — that will only make a scammer more aggressive.As for Firefly, she now refuses to date anyone she doesn’t meet the old-fashioned way, face to face.Her new boyfriend had a complicated backstory: He was an American soldier serving in Iraq, and he had a son living in Ghana.But she had revealed to her new online beau how much she wanted children, and soon his 14-year-old son was emailing her.
Mays is a romance scam-baiter, which means he hangs out on dating sites, posing as a naive love-seeker, with the goal of unmasking — and exhausting — confidence men and women.
She decided to do a little research online and discovered that, yes, cholera is a problem in Ghana, and yes, treating it can be expensive — except that Ghana actually has a free cholera treatment program.
“In that moment, something was not sounding right to me,” Firefly says. But she also realized something else: There were probably a lot of people, just like her, being victimized on dating sites, and Firefly was determined to do something about it.
“My friends advised me to go online and try to find someone to share my life with,” she says via Skype.
Firefly spent a lot of time on her profile, thinking she needed to be entirely honest and open if she hoped to really connect with someone.
Within 10 minutes of posting, she had a handful of virtual suitors — and one stood out.